HOW TO USE YOUR KIDS AGAINST YOUR EX, PART ONE.

Patthetic reasons dont justify the means

Published on March 24, 2004 By semireal In Personal Relationships

Tonight while at work I received a message from dee it read….

“I would like you to come here tomorrow and pick up the metal stuff you have left and get rid of it please”

this is some stuff at the old house obviously that she wants me to dump, now I replied

“cant got an engagement sorry”

which is true, I do…. And it’s a bit late to ask me while I‘m at work the night before don’t you think.
And I thought that was a fairly reasonable response but the reply to that really shocked me she wrote……

“well that’s another chance to see your daughter passed up”

is she trying to make me feel bad? Trying to use my kid against me just so ill go there and clean up the rubbish in the back yard or is she genuinely interested in me seeing my kids? I wrote back to her…

“yeah and another chance for you to manipulate the situation to suit yourself, well done.
If you want me to come see her just ask me, and don’t give me jobs to do while I’m there, im sorry im busy tomorrow, and a little more notice would help.

Am I being unfair here or what….. im starting to think that maybe im not living up to my expectations but it seems that all I do is things for her and I get nothing in return! What do you think?

Oh and I didn’t get a reply to that one?

Comments

Sir Peter Maxwell

on Mar 24, 2004

I don't really know the whole story but just from that post I imagine she likes to feel power over you by asking you to do something with little or no notice in advance and then expecting you to turn up and do it. I don't know the woman so don't know if she is doing it subconsciously or not.

But it sounds like you annoyed her by not jumping when she clicked her fingers and she brought your daughter into it to make you feel guilty.

I could be wrong but there is my opinion.

Sir Peter Maxwell

JBean

on Mar 24, 2004

You can keep her from using your children against you by calling her on short notice, or just showing up to do nothing but spend time with your children. I don't know anything about you or your situation, your title just caught my attention, but I have seen to many children of divorce destroyed by the actions of the parents using them against each other. Make the time to see your daughter often, even if it is only for 15 min to a half hour. Build a relationship with her that isn't controled by the ex. Don't wait for her to tell you when it is time to see the kids. As for the "work" that she wants done take charge of that too. Give her a list of things you are willing to be responsible for and 4 to 6 dates and time you are available for her to choose from for you to come and do it. Let her know that you are willing to do somethings, but that you will not be available at the drop of a hat to do them. Good luck!

Jake

on Sep 04, 2004

Hey, I've read the other "supportive" comments and the bottom line is mate... what a skank... What the hell were you thinking gettin with her in the first place???!!! Do what you have to, get over her, and get on with it - you shouldnt even waste your time writing about her.

good luck, be glad you are rid of the f**king skank.

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